A friend loves at all times and brother is born for adversity.
Let’s be serious here for a moment ladies….. did you think that meant that your friends would love you and treat you right at all times? I am sorry but that is truly not the case, at least not here on earth. This verse isn’t a promise it is a command, this verse is for you. You are to love at all times, you are to be the selfless one and the one who listens and cares you cannot wait for your friend to do these things because we are not perfect yet.
The goal is for each of us to work on ourselves to be all God has called us to be and not to be shocked when other people let us down. We need to stop the pity parties and learn to let it go. I know this is all easier said than done and trust me God is working on me in this area as well. We want life to be fair and we want our spouses, friends and family to treat us right on every level all the time but that isn’t going to happen here on earth unfortunately so at what point do we quit crying victim and give those people and attitudes over to God? It is a life of bondage when we allow our hurt feelings to rule our days! There is freedom in learning to not take it all to heart or wearing our hearts on our sleeves just daring someone to hurt us. Get a grip!
Trust me this Bible Study is probably more for me than anyone. I can be a pity party baby if I choose to be. Poor me, Bill didn’t say this right or he was insensitive and said or did that and I am ashamed to say I have allowed things that have been said and or done or not done ruin my day and render me useless for the cause of Christ. Really? What can possibly be worth allowing your emotions over someone else’s behavior ruin an entire day, or week, or month, or year or sometimes some people hang onto it for a lifetime. It’s the attitude of “well, you see this was done to me in the past so therefore I will never be able to do…..” fill in the blank that gives Satan the victory and destroys your potential to do what God has called you to do.
We live in an imperfect world with imperfect people and we need to enjoy the good times and moments of “perfection” (and they are in some seasons of life just moments) in our relationships, and no ladies that other man or woman isn’t perfect either. Sometimes unfortunately we as women allow our romantic movies and books to shape our ideas of what relationships should be like and it isn’t reality. There isn’t a perfect man out there who is going to say and do everything right all the time and as women I believe we all know other women are not going to be “perfect” friends all the time either. You can’t change the people around you so you have to focus on allowing God to change you! God puts spouses and friends in our lives for us to help each other become all we can be for Him. He wants us to be able to enjoy our marriages and friendships but it takes each of us doing our part not waiting for someone else to do so. Trust me, nine times out of ten when it comes to relationships if you are who you are supposed to be that other person, friend or spouse, will become who they are supposed to be as well. God loves you and He does want out relationships to be all they can be and He wants more than anything for us to be happy and content, it takes everyone doing their part and He will work on your spouse and friends too, it isn’t all on your shoulders but you have to give those other people to Him first.
Now of course you all know I am not saying that you can put up with abuse, verbal or physical! If you need some guidelines I would once again highly encourage you to read the book, “Boundaries in Marriage”, it will help you to understand when and where to draw the line.
Quote: “Success means having the courage, the determination, and the will to become the person you believe you were meant to be.” George Sheehan