1 Chronicles 20:1
And it came to pass, that after the year was expired, at the time that kings go out to battle, Joab led forth the power of the army, and wasted the country of the children of Ammon, and came and besieged Rabbah. But David tarried at Jerusalem.
One poor decision led to many other really bad decisions on David’s part. Notice it was the time of year when the kings went to battle, but David didn’t go, he stayed home. While he was home and hanging out at the castle he just happened to see Bathsheba bathing, so he sent for her and brought her home, not caring that she was married and her husband was out fighting his battles and she ended up pregnant which brought on more terrible decisions trying to then cover his sin until he had her husband killed to save face. How low do you have to sink for murder to seem like a better choice than facing your sin?
It is so important to set your boundaries, decisions and all of your goals based on the word of God. In many cases I know Christians who really haven’t set specific standards or boundaries for their life and I really don’t think they realize the wide open door that gives Satan. Satan and his cohorts are always looking for a foothold and if the door is wide open they will pounce on you just like they did in David’s case. We need to really understand that the battle goes on every day, the unseen battle for your marriage, your testimony, your children and your mind. Satan hates us and he hates God, his goal is to destroy us on every level.
Bill and I have set some very specific standards and boundaries especially in our marriage. We have both seen how hard Satan will work to destroy people and their relationships. We truly believe that especially when it comes to our marriage we need to be above reproach and if you are a single woman and a married man you have to work with doesn’t have that standard, for your testimony sake, take a stand and insist on riding separate and not eating alone with him. Bill travels a lot and not all Christians set a standard when it comes to men and women having meals together or riding in the same car alone, it isn’t just the thought of anything happening because it may truly be an innocent thing but it is what it looks like to other people that matters in a case like this. Don’t give people any room to talk and spread rumors.
We have decisions to make every day that can affect our testimony, our relationships and our walk with God. It seemed like an innocent thing for David to stay home but if he had gone to battle like he should have, he wouldn’t have been there to see Bathsheba and Uriah would have lived more than likely. And if he would have stopped when he saw her and repented for having watched her and just stopped there, but the poor choices just kept coming. I would encourage you today like my youngest daughter Candace used to tell my son when he was a teenager headed out the door with his friends, “make good choices!”
Quote: “We are free up to the point of choice; then the choice controls the chooser.” Mary Crowley